Don’t Worry, Your Divorce Isn’t a Failure

People get married because of love, and often divorce out of love for their families and their futures. That’s why you shouldn’t feel guilty if you’ve decided divorce is the best option for you and your family.

No one gets married expecting it to end in divorce, right? Deciding to move forward with a split isn’t an easy decision. More often than not, it’s a couple’s last resort after they’ve tried to resolve their differences. Just ask Kristin Cavallari. 

If you watched MTV in the early 2000s, you’re probably familiar with reality TV star Kristin Cavallari and her very public split from NFL player Jay Cutler. Well, Cavallari recently opened up about her divorce, telling US Weekly that “it was something that I truly thought about every single day for over two years.” 

Cavallari’s admission got us thinking about how common her experience is. We want you to know that if you’ve decided to move forward with divorce—while it may be a difficult decision to make—be confident that it’s the right move for you and your family.

These Divorce Statistics May Surprise You

You probably already know that about 40% to 50% of all U.S. marriages end in divorce. However, we’ve got some other interesting (and comforting) statistics to share with you. 

Did you know that 1 in 3 people considering divorce thought about it for at least two years or more? And 1 in 6 ruminated over a split for at least a year before taking action, according to the National Divorce Decision-Making Project.

The study also showed that people who thought about divorce more frequently took longer to make that ultimate decision—refuting the common claim that a divorce is rash or rushed.

The Reasons Why Couples Get Divorced

Of course, the reasons for divorce vary from couple to couple. Some of the most common reasons for a split include everything from domestic violence, being unprepared or too young for marriage, having unrealistic expectations, arguing too much, or demonstrating a lack of equality or commitment. However, one of the most common reasons couples cite for getting divorced is simply because they’re no longer in love. 

When you get married, the hope is that you’ll continually grow and evolve as the years go on—alongside your partner. Life experiences, traumas and having children are all ways through which people change their outlooks and develop better insights into who they are and what they believe. This is especially true for younger couples who may learn that their partner doesn’t align with their new outlooks and life goals. 

Circling back to Cavallari: She candidly told People magazine, “It [the divorce] didn’t happen overnight. We tried really, really hard for years and years. It was the hardest decision I’ve ever made. My mom used to say, ‘You’ll know when it’s time.’ I feel like that was true. I knew.” 

That’s true for a lot of our clients. They don’t decide to divorce on a whim. In fact, many try counseling to resolve their issues before realizing that divorce is the right decision for their family. When they finally make the decision to split, they’ve exhausted other options to save their marriage.

People get married because of love, and often divorce out of love for their families and their futures. That’s why you shouldn’t feel guilty if you’ve decided divorce is the best option for your family. You deserve to live the life of our dreams. You can change your status quo.

If you’ve been thinking about divorce and are ready to move forward, we know how hard a decision it can be—and that it can take time. Our law firm is here to help you transform your life. Call us when you’re ready. 

Reach Out to Smedley Law Group Today. We’re Here For You.

The New Jersey family law attorneys at Smedley Law Group represent clients throughout South Jersey, including Westville, Woodbury, Deptford Township, and Woodbury Heights. 

Due to COVID-19, we at Smedley Law Group are currently available for virtual consultations. Contact us today to discuss the facts of your case and to learn how we can help you through this challenging process. 

Call us at (856) 251-0800 or book a consultation today. 

The articles on this blog are for informative purposes only and aren’t a substitute for legal advice or an attorney-client relationship.