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How Can I Make My Divorce Go as Smoothly as Possible?
It’s normal for emotions to run high during a divorce. You’ll experience a range of feelings, including hurt, sadness, anger, and resentment.
Even when you’re riding a roller coaster of emotions, there are certain practical things you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse can do to make your divorce proceedings go as smoothly as possible. This can make it easier to negotiate and come to a divorce agreement that works for everyone.
Make Your Divorce Amicable With These Tips
Here, at the Smedley Law Group, we want to commend you for taking this step into a better future. While we know the road ahead may have its challenges (which is to be expected), we want to offer up some helpful tips to make this process as easy as possible for you and your children:
- Communicate openly with your ex: We know that communicating with a soon-to-be ex-spouse isn’t always an easy task. However, being open about your feelings and expectations can pave the way for navigating important—and necessary—conversations. Open communication can help you breach difficult topics such as child custody arrangements and work toward agreements that you’ll need to provide the best home life for your children.
- Try to understand where the other person is coming from: Hurt feelings can be masked as aggression. Resentment can make it seem like someone is unwilling to cooperate. Try to take a step back from these feelings and understand where the other person is coming from. Sometimes, we’re too close to a situation to see it clearly.
- Consider divorce counseling: Counseling can be an effective resource not only when you’re considering divorce, but also once you’ve decided to move forward with it. Oftentimes, we may be too blinded by our own emotions to look at a situation from a different perspective; a skilled therapist will be able to help you and your ex look at a situation through a new lens while addressing your individual needs.
- Consider individual counseling: Individual counseling can help you deal with feelings that might be getting in the way of a smooth divorce process, such as unresolved conflicts, insecurities, and resentment.
- Leave the children out of it: While it might not seem like a big deal to use children as a negotiating resource, it’s best to leave them out of the disagreements entirely. Remember, a divorce is a big life adjustment for children. They’re processing their own emotions during this time and oftentimes, don’t want to choose one parent over the other.
- Consider your own representation: It’s always a good idea to have an experienced attorney representing your best interests when you’re going through a divorce. This ensures that your rights with child support, custody, and division of assets are also protected.
- Practice self-care: Divorces can be stressful, regardless of how easy or difficult they actually are. It’s important to take care of yourself during this time by sharing your thoughts and feelings with a trusted friend or relative and realizing that it’s OK to feel a wide range of emotions, even if you wish you weren’t.
Divorces are never easy. However, with the right preparation and a willingness to be open and understand where your ex-spouse is coming from, you can make the best of a tough situation.
7 Reasons to Work With a Divorce Lawyer
It might be tempting to go it alone in an attempt to save money when you’re going through a divorce proceeding. However, this can be a mistake. It’s also never a good idea to share legal representation with your spouse, as this can create a conflict of interest.
Here are seven reasons to hire a divorce lawyer. They will:
- Handle all communications on your behalf, even the difficult ones
- Help you and your partner negotiate an agreement that’s equally fair
- Provide you with guidance as you navigate New Jersey’s court system
- Assist you with other family law issues such as alimony, child support, and custody
- Give you objective guidance
- Devise unique solutions to your unique situation
- Manage all of your divorce paperwork.
When you are going through a divorce, you deserve a compassionate lawyer on your side. Here, at the Smedley Law Group, we’ll help you make it through your divorce while protecting your best interests.
Contact the Compassionate Family Law Attorneys at the Smedley Law Group in Woodbury, NJ Today
If you’re thinking about filing for divorce, you’ll also most likely be dealing with another matter like child custody, child support, or division of assets, so you’ll need to speak with a qualified attorney. The New Jersey family law attorneys at Smedley Law Group represent clients throughout the state, including West Deptford, Woodbury Heights, Runnemede, and Westville. We understand how challenging this time can be for you, which is why we will fight hard to protect your interests, and the interests of your loved ones, throughout the legal process. Call us at (856) 251-0800 or fill out our confidential contact form to schedule a consultation. We have an office conveniently located at 750 Cooper Street, Woodbury, NJ 08096.
The articles on this blog are for informative purposes only and are no substitute for legal advice or an attorney-client relationship. If you are seeking legal advice, please contact our law firm directly.